Identity
Discovering who you are and deciding who you are are the same process.
Figuring out who you are has less to do with intrinsic, mysterious truth, and much more to do with how you spend your time. It's the trying.
Emulate the kind of person you want to be. Trying is becoming. The way you are becomes who you are. (Eventually the trying comes easier)
Untangle the pillars of your identity (you may not realize what they all are, and it gets easier to create new pillars when you can see the ones that aren't serving you anymore)
"You are what you love, not what loves you"