Relationships
insights into relationships... tk break out more?
Romantic Relationships
- honeymoon periods, when they end, when the rush of togetherness is not enough anymore and you have to reconcile two people with two different mentals
- true partnership - frame communication, problem solving, even arguments as not one person versus the other, but both people for the relationship.
- the relationship is a separate thing that must be prioritized and nurtured and shepherded
- the most difficult thing is excavating and examining implicitly set expectations (in a partnership, Expectation of Togetherness is an important one)
- related, a difficult thing is to identify and refine your understanding of your own needs
- it is okay and normal for each person to feel off, badly, be stressed, be frustrated, etc. you must learn to tolerate this without your nervous system reacting in kind. (the skill of reading your partner and tactfully offering them support and space as needed, is also important) (tk Disentangling Nervous Systems)
- This is vital otherwise A you will be affected every time your partner is, possibly you both spiraling together. also B, friction and tension will generate undue spirals of reaction
- always try to be charitable and caring to your partner, while also standing up for your own needs and boundaries